Christal Allen-Harrahill: Nurturing Strong Relationships Through Life Coaching

Many times in life, we all need someone who can help us navigate the trials and tribulations that are thrown our way. Be it personal or professional, that person acts as a ‘fixer’, holds our hand, and encourages us to take charge of our lives instead of sitting around and waiting for things to fall in place. Marital relationships can get complicated and require both partners to join hands and steer it in the right direction. In the circumstances where the relationship is not heading where you think it should, you can still heal it without leaving. Christal Allen-Harrahill, life and relationship coach for professional women, is that ‘fixer’, who believes that it only takes one person to change the relationship, and that can be you!

Juggling Multiple Roles with Ease

Christal holds a master's degree in Educational Leadership and Administration from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Before becoming a life coach, she was a business coach and worked with stay-at-home mothers and helped them create a business from home. With time, Christal wanted to do more and went on to become a certified life coach. Six months into being certified, she felt the shift within her and took the leap into entrepreneurship by starting her own life coaching service.

Christal also worked as a personal concierge as she believed she was trust-worthy, detail-oriented, and followed instructions. From there, she graduated to become a virtual assistant, which is when she got into real estate and served as a transaction coordinator (people who work behind the scenes and manage all the paperwork involved in buying and selling). As a new mother who worked from home, she understood how parenthood could impact the careers of many women who constantly struggle to maintain that coveted work-life balance. Thus, Virtual Partners, LLC was born, where Christal, as a coach, guides women on how to start and grow their virtual real estate businesses.

Relationships are Pivotal to the Existence

The lessons that Christal learned during the process of her certification were monumental, including helping her understand how relationships are the cornerstones of our lives. Be it friendship, marriage, or bond with colleagues, navigating those relationships to make them more loving and compassionate while maintaining your emotional and mental well-being holds great power. Having learned how to do this on her own, Christal aims to pass on the lessons and takeaways to her clients, mostly women, and help them be at better places in their lives.

Christal helps couples navigate through problems in their relationship to ensure it becomes stable and holistic. She does this with her 12-week one-on-one coaching module that guides clients on stopping petty fights and creating more of what they want without endlessly waiting for their partner to change. She follows a signature A-B-C process for relationship transformation – Awareness, Becoming, and Change.

“Awareness” or knowing why your relationship is experiencing problems and what you want to create is the most important step that helps create a sustainable relationship change. In the “Becoming” stage, Christal digs deep and looks at where the relationship is in comparison to where you want it to be, besides doing away with old beliefs and habits that may act as hindrances in the way of getting what you want. “Change” is a special stage where the ‘why’ has been understood, worked upon, and now you are ready to create the change you wanted.

Conversations with Christal

A mom, wife, and relationship life coach, Christal believes women are powerful changemakers who positively impact everything around them when they engage in their unique personal transformation. Christal empowers professional women to create strong marriages that they are proud to be in. Through her coaching practice, she combines her personal and professional experiences and education to help women win in their relationships like they are winning professionally without waiting for the other person to change. Her relatable and down-to-earth vibe makes her feel seen, safe and cared for.

Optimizing these qualities, she hosts a podcast called “Conversations with Christal” in which she inspires and challenges the listeners with new thoughts along with handing out strategies to level up their life and relationships. “My main goal with the podcast is to give you actionable, practical tips that you can incorporate into your relationship besides inviting women to connect and work with me. There are so many resources that can help you have a better, fulfilling relationship,” says Christal.

Discover, Clarify, and Align

In this fast-paced world where both spouses are engaged in the rat race to take care of their families and build a solid future, they will be hit by bumps in their relationship while trying to attain a work-life balance. Marriages are always a work-in-progress, and partners tend to take each other for granted, though not in a negative manner, but with children in the picture, sometimes it just happens unconsciously. If the relationship is not given the right attention that it warrants, it will fail to thrive.

Christal believes relationships can be healed and that it only takes one person to start the process. Communication is key in such difficult situations and having a conversation with your partner will enable you to work out the kinks that may get pushed under the rug most of the time. “I always ask clients to choose the discomfort of having that conversation instead of silently coping in your frustration and resentment and slowly losing all hope of reconciliation,” says Christal.

Every relationship faces issues at some point and how one navigates those to maintain stability is important. Marriages are not easy but breaking them off without trying to rectify the problems is not the only solution. Christal wants partners to seek help if they feel they cannot go through the tough times alone. At times, a fresh pair of eyes in the form of a relationship coach helps you see something important that you otherwise might be missing out on. Just following the status quo may not solve anything, so take it upon yourself to change the narrative. Reaching out for more is never wrong, so work towards being happy in the relationship that you are in now.